November 2011
me: Coffee now or coffee later?
outlawgenius: Coffee both?
me: WE ARE BEST FRIENDS 4EVER.
Interviewer: I don’t want this to be one of those interviews, but I did want to talk about your marriage to Gerard, at least in terms of the way it’s often used to dismiss you as a female musician - referring to you as ‘Mrs. Way’ in articles about your own band and career. Do people do that kind of shit in person? How do you react to it when it happens, either in print or in person?
Lindsey: When I said in an interview with Kerrang that I didn’t want to be referred to as Mrs. Gerard Way I was pretty amazed at the negative responses that statement generated. People thought that I was being arrogant and that being his wife was an honor that I didn’t even deserve so how dare I not want that title. They thought it was somehow a reflection on my feelings for my husband and they were put off by the fact that he was so vocal about his feelings for me and here I was not even wanting to be known as his wife. I felt like my intentions were pretty obvious but the point I was trying to make was for the most part lost. The fact is, Mindless has been around longer than most bands and that we have had a solid and loyal fan base for a decade, independent of my marriage. As a band we were all very proud of our accomplishments and of all the hard work and sacrifices we had made to make our project a success. As a band it was also always very important to us that we be represented as a band, as four distinct personalities that could not necessarily exist without the sum of all four parts. When I got married suddenly magazines stopped even putting the name of our band in print. It was "Mrs. Gerard Way and co. play blah blah blah..." not only did it strip away my identity but it robbed my entire band of theirs and completely dismissed all the strides we had made together. I also felt like it sent a disgusting message that no matter what you do with your life at the end of the day you will merely be someone’s wife. It’s a massive insult and anyone who can’t comprehend that is a moron. People often ask me "well, what did you expect?" I don’t know, to be judged on my own merits, good or bad? For my band to get the respect that it deserves? Call me crazy and fuck human nature but I don’t care if it’s natural for the world to react that way when you marry someone more successful than you. It’s still wrong.
